Inner Flow Somatic Counselling
Perfection is a Performance that Separates Us + Offerings
My ideas are always exploratory, meant to encourage contemplation, not to impose or pretend to be a destination, my ideas are always in a process of evolving and changing. Just like me. Hello Reader, Perfectionism is separating us from others, the land, from our wild, and from truly becoming and feeling acceptance. Perfection is the ultimate disconnector and isolator… Stay with me here, perfectionism is subversive and I am connecting it into some diverse areas by exploring the etymology of...
Imagination as Remedy: The Underused Resource in Psychotherapy
Hey Hey Reader, My clients hear me say this all the time: “Imagination is one of the most underused resources in the field of psychotherapy.” In an attempt to be taken seriously, psychotherapy divorced itself from its roots. Shocking, I know. How colonial of them. The etymology of the word psyche is Spirit, so psychotherapy translates to spirit healing. Spirit refers to the animating force, and I would argue that imagination gives life and breath to our inner world, enriching our outer world...
More Truth, Less "Capacity" + Zoom Dance returns
Hello Reader, For the past few years, I’ve been watching the way we use the word capacity. I’m intensely curious about it. The more I hear it, the more I notice how it skirts something real. How it promotes niceness over kindness. How it can be both empowering and disempowering. How, in some spaces, it has become weaponized. The dictionary defines capacity as “an individual’s mental or physical ability”. Simple enough. But the way we use it? That’s where things get murky. “I just don’t have...
Darkness as Matriarch
Blessed Solstice Reader, I'm currently partaking in Stephanie Keiko Kong’s 5-week offering called Matriarch. I have found myself weary hearing people talk the talk of Matriarchy without really walking the walk. Too many people are putting an AFAB bodies at the top of a hierarchy and continuing to replicate patriarchal practices, this is not Matriarchal. I knew Stephanie wouldn’t be doing that. For week 3, we were asked to give a 3-minute presentation to introduce a Matriarch to the group, I...
Embodying Uncertainty & the Unknown
"I can not explain the sweetness of seemingly mundane moments, like when I get to dance, walk, chop wood, garden, play with my dog… there’s a tender cherishing that has arisen.” ~from a recent text thread with a friend about my possible diagnosis. Hello Reader, TL:DR or TL;WR Personal reflections on the emotional and physical experience of waiting for a possible diagnosis of a rare degenerative brain disease (SCA27b). I explore how embodying the unknown fosters a deeper relationship with...
Perfectionism, Loneliness, and Feral Medicine
You are the universe, but society teaches limitation. ~ Alan Watts Hello Reader, This morning, while walking Mia, I found myself admiring the graceful curves of cedar branches draped in vibrant green moss. As I listened to Raven emit a sound eerily reminiscent of submarine sonar pings, a thought surfaced: how perfectionism can foster loneliness. At first, I was puzzled… why would a quiet walk in Nature spark thoughts about the link between these two concepts? But we’ll get to that. In my...
How unexpected news deepened by trust in the unknown.
Hello Reader, After some unexpected family news, I found myself living between two worlds, watching my inclination to grieve and long for the world behind me and fearfully wanting to reject the world before me. I was being invited to steep myself in the practice of being in the in-between—in the unknown, the void—and to find my ground among the instability. As you may know, the sudden end of my 17-year relationship rocked me, and then discovering the possibility that I might have a...